Fight the Bully: What Parents Can Do
Posted by Josh Gunderson
I get asked a lot of questions. Seriously, I’ll show you my inbox sometime. It’s truthfully one of the best parts of my job, being able to impart wisdom that I have picked up from over five years of travelling around the United States and talking with people. Of all the questions I get asked, the biggest from parents has to do with the issue of bullying both in the real world and the digital. For myself and even my parents growing up, when it came to bullies we were told to “suck it up” and that it was a part of growing up. More and more we are learning that these attitudes are dangerous when it comes to the health and safety of our children. It’s not as simple as sucking it up. The digital world has changed how we interact with one another and that goes for bullying. The advent of social media and mobile technology has created a breeding ground for issues that are constant, permanent and unavoidable. Some Quick Facts On Bullying
- 7in 10 young people are victims of cyberbullying.
- 37%of them are experiencing cyberbullying on a highly frequent basis.
- 20%of young people are experiencing extreme cyberbullying on a daily basis.
- Facebook, Ask.FM and Twitter found to be the most likely sources of cyberbullying, being the highest in traffic of all social networks.
- Cyberbullying found to have catastrophic effects upon the self-esteem and social lives of up to70%of young people.
Your Top Tool: Communication When it comes to students the one item I have on repeat is “take time to think.” For parents it’s much simpler: “COMMUNICATE!”
A tidbit I share all the time is how my mother raised us. Rather than lecturing about one issue or another, she would ask what we knew about something. She would take the time to get to know what we were into and who we were friends with. It was an easier time for her with the lack of mobile technology and social media but I think that this ideal can easily translate into the digital world.
Stay on top of what is going on in the world by following news stories about bullying and other online issues and talk to your kids about them. Ask them what they have heard and if they have any thoughts about what is going on. Checking in with them regularly and having conversations will help them feel more comfortable coming to you in the future with these types of issues.
By avoiding going into lecture mode, you will be establishing a great sense of trust for your kids. That’s what I loved about my mom. She hardly yelled or lectured and in turn we were more likely to come to her with problems.
Dealing with the Issues So what to do when your child comes to you with an issue? Keep that communication going. Ask your child what they would like you to do with the information they have given you. Do they simply want you to be aware of what is happening or would they like you to take action. If action is the answer, what kind? Talk to the other child’s parents? Talk to school administrators? Let them be a part of the decision making and they will feel more in control for themselves. It will teach them the valuable skill of standing up for themselves and not always relying on someone else (mommy or daddy) to take care of all their problems. Let them know that you are always and forever on their side no matter what!
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Josh Gunderson is an award-winning Anti-Bullying/Social Media Specialist. For more information on Josh and his educational programs please visit www.HaveYouMetJosh.com
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About Josh GundersonJosh Gunderson is a comedian and professional actor in educational theatre who firmly believes that learning does not have to be boring. Specializing in issues surrounding Internet Safety and Cyber Bullying.
Posted on July 30, 2014, in Bullying, Bullying Resource, Cyberbullying, Parenting and tagged bullying, cyber bullying, cyberbullying, digital parenting, mobile technology, parenting, social media, talking to kids about bullying, what parents should know. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.